Finding True Fellowship
Biblical fellowship between believers should break the surface.
| posted 11/10/2008
| Topics: | Authenticity, Communication, Connecting, Fellowship, Relationships, Unity |
| Filters: | Coach, Facilitator, Group Leader, Host, Train |
| Purpose: | Fellowship |
| References: |  |
| Date Added: | November 10, 2008 |
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Fellowship is a misunderstood purpose of small-group ministry.
People often think they're enjoying fellowship together, when actually they're only experiencing a small part of what fellowship is meant to be. Too often, the parts that are missing are the elements of true community. And Christian community is what provides the strong foundation for living out all the other purposes of the church:
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True community fosters discipleship. That's because when the people in your small groups experience open, honest relationships together, they have an easier time asking hard questions and challenging each other to grow.
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True community fosters ministry. That's because when we care about one another and we know one another's needs, it's easier to put love into action. We don't hesitate to help.
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True community fosters evangelism. When we know that a small-group member is hurting over loved ones who don't know Christ yet, we're more able—and more motivated—to pray for them to be saved.
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True community fosters worship. Those who experience genuine community and unconditional love with one another are willing to be more vulnerable. This includes honesty in worship. When we are part of true community, we're apt to talk more openly to our friends and to surrender ourselves more freely to God.
The Bible offers its own reasons why Christian fellowship is so important. For instance, Hebrews 10:24–25 says: "Think of ways to encourage one another to outbursts of love and good deeds. And let us not neglect our meeting together as some people do. But encourage and warn each other, especially now that the day of his coming back again is drawing near."
We tend to think of good deeds as being aspects of ministry. But fellowship does indeed prompt outbursts of love and good deeds.
Fellowship is the glue that keeps us in relationship with one another. Ephesians 2:19, another key verse about fellowship, talks about how we are members of God's family. It says, "You are no longer foreigners or outsiders, but citizens together with God's people and members of God's family." Godly fellowship enables us to experience true family.
Genuine fellowship helps us move from just sharing coffee and cookies to being a safe community where we can be transparent with one another. Here are some simple but effective steps a small group in your church can take to build this kind of fellowship and encourage genuine community:
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Offer new people a history of the group. Have everyone—including the first-timers—share a little bit about their family and a few of the activities they enjoy doing in their free time.
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Provide ice-breakers. Sometimes the silliest questions or activities are best. These help people get to know one another in a safe way.
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Celebrate milestones. Help foster community by celebrating birthdays, anniversaries, long-awaited adoptions, and other special events in people's lives.
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Celebrate victories. In addition to job promotions and other achievements, make sure you celebrate spiritual victories and answers to prayer.
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Plan an overnighter. Arrange for an "adults only" weekend or a family getaway. The time spent together on an overnighter is equivalent to three months of nightly group meetings.
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Host a "Fun Night." Instead of the usual study time, surprise the group with a night full of games and fun. Such a change of pace is both healthy and refreshing for the group.
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Institute a hot seat. Sit a person in the center of the circle and have everyone shower him or her with heartfelt affirmation. Statements can begin with, "You're important to our group because … " Everyone needs this kind of affirmation from time to time.
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